Finding the Calm…


We all have times in our lives where things just seem to be totally out of control. You have so much to do and not enough time to get it done. You are running from here to there, doing one thing after another, trying to please the wife, the kids, your clients, and of course the boss. You are stressed and the pressure to get it all done is driving you to the brink.

Sound familiar? Been there done that?

So how do you deal with it? What do you do to find the calm?

This past week I found myself on the proverbial brink. The pressure and stress was really starting to get to me. I was working on an opportunity and I needed some help and direction. I decided to reach out to a colleague of mine (Paul) for some advice. We ended up playing phone tag for a couple of days before when we finally connected. The weather has been beautiful and knowing he is a golfer, I joking ask what hole he was on? He laughed and said, he wished he was on the golf course.  I told him the purpose of my call and half-heartedly said that we should go play and talk. He said it sounds like a good idea and we quickly set up a tee time for the following day.

We met at the course and much to my surprise, and very much to my liking, he had already paid for both of us.  Immediately the excuses from both of us were flying as neither of us had played in quite sometime.  Hey it was the end of March in Colorado, (normally our snowiest month) the temperature was 75, it was a beautiful day, no worries, no excuses, and you guess it, no pressure.

Somewhere about the 5th or 6th hole, I turned to Paul and said, “you know, I forgot how good it feels to be out on the course”.  For the first time in a really long time, I was totally relaxed. I was completely at ease with an incredible sense of calm.

I knew at that moment that whatever problems or challenges I had to deal with, that it would be ok. It was like the universe was telling me, be calm, everything will be fine. I felt like I had my MOJO back!

Take note from my experience. Don’t always get caught up in taking care of everything and everyone else. Take some time for yourself. Do whatever it is that helps you re-energize and re-motivate yourself. Golf has always been something that I loved and something that I am passionate about. Unfortunately, I was focusing on trying to do so many other things that I neglected the one thing that helps me find harmony and reignites my passions.

Do you have a passion that brings you back? Do you have something that helps you to find the harmony? Something that helps you find the calm?

Categories: Motivation

1 reply

  1. Great post Bruce! I think most of us (myself included) feel out of control sometimes. I also love to hit the golf course and relax with friends. But I also love to take a run in the ravine with my dog just down the street from where I live. And… for the first time in months, I sat down and played the piano for about 15 minutes the other day… I think it is so important to have outlets every once in a while to decompress. It helps give perspective and remind you that the world will not end if you don’t get everything done. Thanks again…

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