Maybe it’s time to ask for help?


Seriously, I could REALLY use some help

Have you ever faced a time in your life where things just didn’t seem to be going your way?  Where no matter what you try, it seems like things just continue to get worse. You feel unhappy, lost, confused, unfocused, you’re to the point of feeling completely hopeless.

You contemplate reaching out and asking someone for help but you don’t want to be a burden to anyone. Your pride tells you that you can get through this. It’s just a rough patch.  Besides, if you ask for help it will be perceived as a sign of weakness or even worse, desperation.


Maybe it’s time to wave the proverbial white flag. Maybe it’s time to ask for help?

Generally speaking we are conditioned by society that asking for help is a bad thing. It seems as if it is an ingrained pattern of thinking and that it’s a sign of being incompetent.

Be independent, strong, resourceful, and “pull yourself up by the boots straps”!

Well sometimes the old boots strap mentality just won’t cut it.  Sure it takes a lot of strength and courage to ask when you are down. Time to put the bravado, pride, and ego aside and realize that it’s OK to ask for help.

First step, accept the fact that you need help, second, simply ask.

Ask your friends, family, or acquaintances, reach out to your network.  You might be surprised to learn how many people are willing to help. It’s been my experience that in the majority of cases, people have been happy to help. There is something right and true about helping someone and it makes most people feel good about being able to contribute in some small way.

There is no shame in turning to others for help. Think about it, how many times have you said to a friend or relative in need, “Let me know if there’s anything I can do to help”. Did you mean it? Of course you did. I’m sure if and when the tables are turned those same folks will be there for you. But you have to ask.

One last thing . . .

When it comes to help, remember it’s a two-way street. All to often we assume a friend, a co-worker, or even the person sitting next to us doesn’t have any challenges. Sure, it isn’t always easy to see that someone is struggling, but here’s a clue, if someone reaches out to you and ask for help, well . . .

Thoughts, Comments?

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  1. Boy … have I been there! It takes courage to ask for help, to let others know we are not as strong, knowledgeable, resourceful, etc as we like to pretend we are. But the opportunity to learn, to get past the feeling of being stuck is not to be ignored. Also appreciated your reference to our perceptions of others and assumption they don’t need help. Chances are pretty good others around us are living under the “pull yourself up by the boot strap” mentality as well.

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