If only . . .

If Only  . . .

If Only . . .

Last week, I found myself sitting alone in an unoccupied area of an airport. I was mentally tired and emotionally spent at the end of what was a very long day. Reflecting on the events of the past 24 hours, I was evaluating what went right, what went wrong, and then came the inevitable question of why?

There are times in all of our lives when, for a variety of reasons, on one occasion or other, we find ourselves asking why. Why I said this, why I did that, why didn’t I . . . (fill in the blank)? Then, slowly like a smoldering ember that gets a hint of a breeze, the flame of the pity party starts to burn and your inner voice utters those two inescapable words, If only?

If only I would have done it this way. If only I would have responded this way. If only I would have said that. If only, I would have known.

Could of, should of, would of . . . If only, if only.

If only, hindsight were foresight, we would all have 20/20.

New flash, you can’t go back, there are no do-overs. Life isn’t a video game and it doesn’t come with a reset button.th

We all have challenges, issues, opportunities and sometimes things don’t work out the way we had hoped or planned. But you can’t live life looking in the rearview mirror, longing to go back in time to change things, to make situations or outcomes different.

How you deal with adversity is up to you and only you. You can ponder and stew over what might have been or you can choose to carry on. Life is a journey not a destination. One event or one moment in time doesn’t define our life. Move ahead with confidence and live your life to the fullest.

No matter what you do in life, no matter what you have accomplished or hope to accomplish, do not allow yourself to say, If Only.

Keep your head up, keep your heart strong.


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2 replies

  1. Great post Bruce! Asking “what, why and how” are important. Those questions help us analyze both positives and negatives. What went well? Why? What didn’t go as planned? Why? What can be done to change it / repeat it? It is all easy to get into the “If only’s” (I’ve been there too!) but like you said, it’s not productive. There is no reset button. Learn, grow and move on.

    • Laurie, Thank you so much for your comments. Your thoughts are absolutely correct. Often regret leads to reflection and it is from reflection that we gain insight. Hope you are having an Awesome day!

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