You finally found a job that you really wanted. It required all the exact skills that you have been perfecting over the last umpteen years. This was it, finally a perfect match. This is what people dream about, doing exactly what you were meant to and hey they are going to pay you to do it! Like the line in the song from comedian Steve Martin’s Let’s Get Small album, “The most amazing things is… I get paid for doing this” .
You spend countless hour preparing so that when it’s your time to interview, you are ready eager and excited. You are pumped! You are ready to knock the cover off the ball. The interview comes, you do great, and then the answer comes back . . . . . . “We decided to not to back fill the position”. NO JOB!
Your dream job is gone in a flash! Your hopes, dreams, aspirations crushed!
So now what?
You can get mad and blame the system, the company, the economy or whatever else serves as your personal pity party . You can sulk about it. You can even try to get them to change their mind. (How I hate when people grovel)
You can accept it at face value and move on.
I prefer the latter. No sense in making a scene. I am one who believes that things happen for a reason. Good bad or indifferent, the decision is made. We all get bad news at one time or another in our life. How you react to this type of situation or similar situations says a lot about your character and the type of person you are.
So how do you respond? My advice, keep it professional. Although you take it personally, the decision was truly a business decision; it wasn’t about you personally. Focus on the positive. Know that you did everything you could to prepare and to present your qualifications in the best light. Feel good about your efforts and know that if you had to do it all over again, you would have taken the same approach. The old saying that when one door closes, another door opens may not fit the bill right now, but you never know. Let this be one of those life lessons. Learn from the situation and move forward in a positive fashion. You never know what opportunities lie ahead.
So how do you deal with disappointment? Feel free to share your comments.